Couples Therapy

«When we are with a couple, acts of generosity toward each other are acts of generosity toward yourself»

Being a couple implies sharing, coming out of yourself to build something with someone else, this process is immersed in acts of mutual generosity: for example, thinking about the common good, to share objectives, to ask for forgiveness and forgive, to value the actions of your partner and your own, to listen, to express your emotions and thoughts, to give space and to respect the intimacy of the other, to maintain your identity and intimacy, even the desire is bidirectional. All these acts are orchestrated as a unique melody in each couple that could be translated into the language of love.

This language of love is often truncated by crises in the couple and conflicts arise that can cause deep wounds over time and with them the distancing and weakening of the affective bond. Therapy allows to understand and transform conflicts opening possibilities for both.

As expert psychologists in couples therapy, we will be happy to assist you and see which needs are behind the discontentment, as well as adjusting the idealized expectations that often prevent us from seeing the reality of the other and of the relationship.

How is Couples Therapy performed?

Initial Contact

The initial contact is usually with the of the members of the relationship, from the first contact either by phone or by written means, you can talk about the reason for the consultation and ask all the questions you might have about it or about us and how we work couples therapy. We will be happy to answer all your concerns.

The first session is usually done with both partners, although there are cases where only one person attends depending on the particularity of the case. In the first session we start the evaluation and we sign a confidentiality agreement where we guarantee that your personal data and the information provided by you is not accessible to other people.

Evaluation

A good intervention depends on a good evaluation, since if we fully understand the dynamics of the situation and all the factors associated with it, the techniques will be more effective and therapy will take less time.

The success of couples therapy depends on individual and team work; therefore, both individual and couple sessions are usually held.

From the first evaluation session we want you to feel well balanced and able to express those things that are hard to say outside a therapeutic space, we respect your rhythms and differences respecting each one equally. We usually ask different types of questions to get to know you and understand the particularities and needs of the couple; interviews, questionnaires and psychological tests can be conducted as well as records of situations which provide valuable information.

Therapy Information

After an analysis of what was observed in the evaluation, we have a session where we put the results and the possibilities of the therapy on the table. It is very important that you understand why the situation arose that brought you to therapy, which aspects can be changed, which to keep and which resources we have for it. Objectives to be achieved are set and any questions and concerns that arise can be resolved.

Treatment

Individual and joint sessions are held to address the aspects found in the evaluation. Therapeutic encounters in couples can have very intense moments because love and pain usually erupt on the same channel; they are based on trust and therapeutic bonding through communication and active listening. Socratic dialog is fostered where questions open up a world of possibilities and foster self-knowledge and knowledge of the other person.

A través de dinámicas adaptadas a vuestras características y Through dynamics adapted to your particular characteristics and needs which can include activities to perform both in sessions and throughout the week, we work on thoughts and emotions to lead you to perform actions that bring benefits to both the individual and the couple.

Follow-Up

Once you have achieved the goals you established, there will be occasional meetings where we will value how you feel, whether you maintain your achievements or if you need to make any adjustments. These follow-ups will only for a period of time until there is stability in the changes.

Common Reasons for Consultation

Emotional dependence, insecurity, jealousy, lack of understanding, apathy, lack of communication, disparity in objectives, incongruity in parenting patterns, loss of sexual desire, infidelity, verbal and physical assaults, manipulation, problems with the extended family, financial problems.

BRILO Psychologists
Facilities

Ambience is very important as it facilitates interaction and relaxation in therapeutic sessions. We have spaces adapted for different ages and different types of sessions, as well as access and toilets for people with reduced mobility.

We want you to feel free, confident, calm and safe from the moment you enter our Centre enabling you to take these feelings with you when you leave.

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At BRILO Psychologists
we care.

Our team of collegiate professionals with more than 10 years of experience will treat you with empathy, understanding and without judgment. We offer therapy sessions that will improve your quality of life, giving you the tools to make you personally grow and feel better about yourself.

In our centre in Benalmadena we have created a comfortable and relaxing atmosphere, with flexible schedules tailored to you. Come and meet us.

«Love is the yearning to leave oneself»

Charles Baudelaire
Facilities

«Love is the yearning to leave oneself»

Charles Baudelaire
Facilities
At BRILO Psychologists we care.

Our team of collegiate professionals with more than 10 years of experience will treat you with empathy, understanding and without judgment. We offer therapy sessions that will improve your quality of life, giving you the tools to make you personally grow and feel better about yourself.

In our centre in Benalmadena we have created a comfortable and relaxing atmosphere, with flexible schedules tailored to you. Come and meet us.

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    Frequently Asked Questions

    Couples therapy is a safe space where we can address painful or conflicting situations that may arise over time, in order to restore the relationship or make the decision to end it in a respectful way with each other and with ourselves. 

    Usually the couples who consult us have a deep desire to have a deep and healthy bond with each other and to bring the relationship to maturity; this involves working on aspects such as pride, ego, self-esteem, setting limits, among other aspects, so that a balanced and healthy relationship can be built.

    In the couple sessions, questions are asked that have an importance to the person answering them and for the listener. These questions facilitate the dynamics of communication and listening and allow aspects that are difficult to express outside of therapy to be brought to the table in order to empathise and propose solutions taking into account their own vision and that of the couple. 

    Individual and joint sessions are held to address the aspects found in the assessment. Therapeutic meetings as a couple can have very intense moments because love and pain tend to emerge from the same side; therefore, trust and therapeutic bonding through communication and active listening is important, Socratic dialogue is encouraged where questions open up a world of possibilities and promote self-knowledge and knowledge of the other.

    Through dynamics adapted to your particular characteristics and needs, which can include activities to be carried out both during the sessions and throughout the week, we work on thoughts and emotions so that they lead to carrying out actions that bring benefits to the individual and the couple.

    When attempts at communication end in constant arguments, when you reject your partner’s closeness, when you are bothered by many aspects of your partner that you were previously indifferent to, when your sexual desire or that of your partner has decreased significantly, when you do not look each other in the eye, when there are doubts about mutual affection, when the tone of communication is hostile or indifferent, when there is no mutual support, when you avoid being with your partner, when you find it difficult to express affection, when there is mistrust.

    The price of couples therapy in English is 90€.

    Although in psychological therapy it is not possible to predict the exact duration of a treatment since it varies according to the characteristics of each case, after 6 – 8 sessions of couple therapy very favourable results are usually achieved in most cases. Situations with greater complexity would usually require more sessions. 

    Each couple therapy session lasts an hour and a half.

    One of the most important things to learn in couple therapy is to break emotional dependency: this means developing a healthy self-esteem where the partner is not held responsible for the other’s emotional state or lack of affection. This allows the sharing of  affection out of a balanced feeling, but not out of necessity. This aspect is reflected in different areas of the couple and facilitates a solid, stable, mature and generous encounter. 


    On the other hand, we learn communication focused on three aspects: active listening: when I pay attention to the other person’s message, put myself in their shoes and regulate my own emotions; emotional expression; involves recognising my own emotions, giving them a name and verbalising them; and finally, problem solving: consisting of focusing the mind and dialogue on the solution instead of reproach.

    Additional Services

    Apart from Adult Psychological Therapy, we have other options that can meet your needs.